With parenthood I spent the first two months of lils life feeling guilty, feeling guilty I couldn’t breast feed who need a horrific birth and PCOS causes milk issues, guilty I didn’t use cloth nappies, guilty I didn’t baby wear (turns out my back is messed up from the labour so good job I didn’t), guilty about having depression, guilty about having anxiety attacks. The list goes on and on.
What is it about parenthood especially motherhood that makes you feel guilty for not doing it the way you thought you would? I guess comparing yourself to other mums doesn’t help, I see mums doing it the way I thought I would and I get a guilt feeling arising but now I’ve learnt to accept all babies are different.
My midwife gave me the best advice “what does it matter what you are feeding her as long as she’s being fed”
I’m happy with my choices now, I’m glad I formula fed, didn’t change my relationship with my daughter, I’m glad I co-slept with her for the first 6 weeks didn’t change her sleeping now. I guess I am ruled by my 5 month old, she’s a happy little girl who is growing so quickly I just need to accept in future my choices will be different to others but it doesn’t make them incorrect.
Are your choices after having a baby different from before you had the baby?
Okay my rambling done back to napping — favourite past time!